It’s not terribly often that I get serious here, but humor me for a moment. (See what I did there? 😉)
Please think about your words. Not just the ones you say TO people but also the ones you say ABOUT people. Sometimes we forget how powerful words can be, and once said, they WILL be repeated, and remembered. 

I spent too many hours last week worrying about something that had been said about me. Now, it’s very easy to say, “You shouldn’t let that bother you,” but the fact is, sometimes it just does. It’s hurtful when you feel like your character is called into question, even when it’s something rather trivial in the grand scheme of things 

I’m over it now. And I’ve realized it wasn’t intended the way it seemed. But let me tell you, it made me think. 
The words we say definitely have a way of getting around. Sometimes what we say about someone in a moment of frustration or stress, gets back to them and it can hurt, even if we don’t mean it to be hurtful or to question their character. 
I’m as guilty as anyone and I’m working on kindness, I really am. We aren’t in grade school anymore. Back then we could say, “I’m sorry. I take it back,” and make it all better. That doesn’t work anymore, so please, people, be nice.



My Issue with Issues

Interesting conversation at our house this morning. Having seen this question posed on a political stance survey,
“Do you think women should be paid an equal wage as men for doing the same job,” I told my husband the issue lies in the fact that we even have to ask that question.He agreed, the job should pay what it pays regardless of who is doing it.

Pay should be based on merit, ability, and performance, as well as the type of job it is. PERIOD. That question is insulting not only to women, but to every person with a little bit of common sense. (The problem here perhaps being that common sense is not all that common in our country.)

He said he had been thinking about the same idea in light of the “black lives matter,” movement. And I think, by extension, we can say the same for all the rest of them, with whatever else has been pasted onto the phrase; if we have to SAY that ANY specific life matters, we’re already missing the issue.  (Being a LEO family, this hits especially close to home.) 

ALL lives matter. 
All of them.  

These so-called “movements” are, in reality, nothing but shouting matches, each side trying to yell louder than the other about this life or that one or the other one. These movements may give an illusion of solidarity to some people, but it is an illusion. The sad fact is, they only result in MORE division.

The truth of the whole situation is this: Either all lives matter, or none of them do.